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A Deep, Dark Secret Revealed

I have a confession to make. It’s a deep, dark secret that few of you know.  But in my ongoing quest for authenticity, I am going to reveal it today.
 
Drumroll, please.
 
I have Formica countertops in my kitchen. Yes, I said it…FORMICA! Even worse, the backsplash is of the same dull, cream-colored Formica. Circa 1970’s. Circa bland and boring.
 
Please don’t judge me.
 
In the days when countless homes in America have granite or marble countertops and lovely tile backsplashes, I am almost 50 years behind the times. I don’t even have Corian. I have the original Formica.
 
Gasp.
 
Does it bother me? Yes, at times. Those twinges of dissatisfaction strike after I’ve been to visit a friend with a freshly remodeled kitchen or a newly built home. It’s so easy to long for…no, change that…COVET a more modern kitchen. 
 
“Comparison is the thief of joy,” observed Teddy Roosevelt. And truer words were never spoken.
 
But have you ever noticed that we always compare ourselves with those who have more, not with those who have less?
 
Contentment does not come naturally to any of us. We’re wired to be discontent. Advertisers promote it. The “Keep Up with the Joneses” instinct fuels it. It wasn't even automatic for the Apostle Paul. He said:  “I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” (Philippians 4:11)
 
My big lesson about contentment didn’t come from being in a different state. It came from being in a different country, on a different continent.
 
In the fall of 2012, I went on a short-term trip with a group from our church to serve at an orphanage in Uganda.  And it was there that I was incredibly convicted about my occasional pouts about my pedestrian countertops. 
 
Here’s a picture of a kitchen inside a Ugandan hut:

 
And here is an example of a lovely kitchen typical in the children’s homes in the orphanage where we served. A housemother prepares meals for 8 children or teenagers in that kitchen.  And she does it joyfully.

 
How ‘bout laundry?  Yup, I’ve whined about that too. Well, here’s how laundry is done in most of Uganda. Does that make you want to complain about your “dated” washing machine? Just try wringing sheets out by hand.

 
Have I ceased complaining about the things I don't have? Unfortunately, not completely.

But when I feel myself sliding down that slippery slope, I remember Uganda: the kitchens, the humble circumstances...and I especially remember the joyful spirits of the people. And all of a sudden, I find myself looking gratefully at my Formica countertops and my 25 year old washing machine.
 
Contentment really is a matter of perspective. 

And it's a state where we can all learn to live.

Comments

Love this piece - you are so right! We are incredibly blessed in even the small things and in our opportunities. When I was a teenager living outside San Diego, we used to take food & clothes to a grandfather, mother, and 4 children living in a cardboard hut in Tijuana that was just large enough for a double bed to be put down at night (and leaning on its side during the day). Their "kitchen" was an old camp-style stove on a very flimsy TV tray outside the front door. I need to remember that as you do Uganda anytime my thoughts stray toward discontent or envy. Thanks! Be blessed!

What a memory you have from helping those people in Tijuana.. Such great perspective. Thank you for sharing that.

Africa cures a multitude of 'Western' ails. I've also been twice and it ruined me, in the best possible way. I could go on and on...but when my mind begins to wander to discontentment, a picture of Africa emerges and I'm immediatly humbled. For so many reasons. Every single time I turn my water faucet on...when I used porcelain throne...Everything feels so frivolous to me here; wasteful even. It's a hard thing to reconcile, but I hold onto this: For whom much is given, much is required. I have a responsibility to the abundance I have here; to share it. :) 

Amen! Couldn't agree more. It's so easy to feel like we "deserve" this life, when  in reality we are blessed to be born here by the grace of God.